Fresh, fun, and sexy date ideas

It's easy to fall into the old dinner-and-a-movie routine, either out of habit or because you can't think of anything better to do. "Once the courting phase ends and people shift into a more comfortable zone, there's less incentive to come up with fresh ideas," says Courtney Cooke, author of Create a Date. "But if you don't mix things up, the relationship can get stale." Luckily, all you need is a little creative inspiration and a sense of adventure.

 

These suggestions should get you started

1. Have a DIY dinner. Set up a taco bar with all the fixings or make homemade pizza. "Creating something together is interactive, so it brings you closer," says relationship therapist Sandra Anne Taylor.
2. Plan a Sideways-style excursion and hit a vineyard for a wine tasting.
3. Spend the weekend day with your man, sipping cocktails and people-watching at a bar.
4. In the afternoon, visit open houses and fantasize about buying your dream home. "It'll help you look forward to what your relationship can be down the road," says Taylor.
5. Go on an edu-date. Taking classes on anything from Italian to film bonds you and introduces you to new things.
6. Hit a playground or an amusement park. Use the swing set, go on rides, win a teddy bear — you know, have fun like you did when you were a kid.
7. Play around-the-world cocktails. Sample one specialty drink from a wine bar, one from a pub, and another from a Russian vodka room. Take a taxi
8. Take him to a NASCAR-style event. Any guy obsessed with wheels (aren't they all?) will love a trip to the races.
9. Throw on your sexiest preppy duds and hit the indoor-golf driving range.
10. Pamper yourselves with a couples massage at a day spa. "It's a relaxing, sensual experience that can put you in an amorous mood as well," says Janice Levine, PhD, a clinical psychologist in Lexington, Massachusetts.
11. Book a room at a local hotel for only one night. To add an element of mystery, don't tell him where you're going.
12. Want to know if you have a future with your guy? Visit a psychic. You don't have to buy into her predictions, but at least you'll have a good laugh.
13. Instead of eating dinner in front of the TV, grab a blanket, a baguette, and Brie and have a picnic under the stars. Or nibble on finger foods in bed.
14. Test your luck at a nearby casino or horse race. Bring only a set amount of cash that you can afford to lose.
15. Go to a WWE event instead of a comedy club to bust a gut.

How to Seduce a Woman Using ‘Deflection Theory’

There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much, if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.

This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place), so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you” status.

However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable desire to get your attention and “win” you back.

Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls. However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.

Casually make physical contact with her friends more than her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or when laughing and joking.

When sitting down or standing around talking as a group, face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction of one of her friends more than her.

 

Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!

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